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Regaining Control

Nov 13, 2023

In a recent social media survey, participants indicated that lack of control was contributing to their high stress. Let's dissect out steps to regain control in this fast-paced chaotic world. 


In the fast-paced, ever-changing world we live in, it's easy to feel like we're at the mercy of external forces, which can contribute to the stress and burnout that many of us experience. The desire for control is a fundamental human need, and when we feel like we're losing it, it can lead to emotional exhaustion and a sense of helplessness. But the good news is that even in the face of chaos, we can regain a sense of control. 

Prioritize Self-Care: Your Anchor in Uncertainty

One of the first steps to regaining control is to prioritize self-care. Self-care is not a luxury; it's a necessity, especially when you're feeling overwhelmed. It serves as your anchor when everything else feels uncertain. Whether it's taking time for relaxation, enjoying a hobby, or simply setting boundaries, self-care can help you reconnect with yourself and build resilience. Remember the last time you gave yourself a moment of selfcare and how more resilient you were afterward. That stressors not in your control were bouncing off you with ease, letting it pass instead of control your behavior. 

Set Small, Achievable Goals

When you're grappling with a lack of control, it's easy to become disheartened by the enormity of the challenges you face. To counter this, focus on what you can influence. Start by setting small, achievable goals. Accomplishing these goals empowers you and builds momentum, providing a sense of control over your life. As one workshop participant put it, "I create 3 small goals for tomorrow's work day before I leave work the previous day. It has given me back a focus point in which I can control instead of planning my days in response mode."

The Power of Mindfulness

In a world filled with distractions and chaos, mindfulness is your ally. This practice encourages you to stay present in the moment, despite the external turmoil. Mindfulness enables you to manage stress with a clear mind, fostering a sense of control over your emotional responses. Techniques like meditation and deep breathing can help you anchor yourself in the now, offering clarity and stability.

Delegate and Seek Support

You don't have to carry the world on your shoulders. When you're feeling overwhelmed, delegate tasks and responsibilities when possible. Additionally, don't hesitate to lean on your support network. Whether it's colleagues, friends, or family, they can offer assistance, guidance, and a sense of shared responsibility. Communication is key. Does it matter how the dishwasher is loaded? No, not really. Let go of control and let someone else load it. Ask your household members to help, what can you change so they can do so. There are helpers all around you, and it takes courage to ask for that support. We are all human, don't be ashamed to ask for help. 

Embrace Flexibility and Adaptability

The world is filled with change and uncertainty. Instead of resisting it, embrace the idea of adaptability. Understand that growth and resilience often emerge from challenging situations. By adopting a flexible mindset and a willingness to adapt to change, you regain control over your ability to navigate the unknown. If you look back at past challenges, you will see the lessons learned and growth from going through it and coming out stronger on the other side. Embrace these moments and seek the uncomfortable. 


While the desire for control is a fundamental human need, life doesn't always conform to our desires. Burnout often stems from the feeling of not being in control, but we have the power to change that. Remember, it's not about controlling the storm, but adjusting your sails to navigate it.

So, as you face the uncertainties of life, remind yourself that you have the capacity to regain control and steer your course towards a more balanced and resilient you. 

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